I'm currently reading a new book, 'The Secret Laws of Attraction' by one of my favourite inspirational writers, Talane Miedaner, an international life coach. Contrary to what the title might have you believe, Talane's book isn't about 'The Secret' or 'The Law of Attraction' per se; it's a book of little known communication, self care and coaching strategies designed for relationship success. For those of you familiar with my work, you'll know I'm a big fan of another of Talane's books, 'Coach Yourself to Success'. 'The Secret Laws of Attraction' is similar, but it focuses specifically on getting your needs met in relationships, how to feel great about yourself and realize your dreams. What really stands out about this book is the encouraging manner Talane uses to invite the reader to look inside for what may be missing in his or her life. The book guides you through figuring out what your core needs and values are; things like the need to be in Control, be Appreciated, be Heard and for Security, just to name a few. We often look to others to satisfy our needs and there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, it's truly essential. However, it's important to know how to go about it. This book serves as a useful reminder of several things, including 1. Getting your needs met being fundamental to your sense of well-being and self-esteem 2. Let everyone know how they can meet your needs - very few of us are mind readers. 3. Practise maintaining strong boundaries, which includes saying 'No' to requests that are going to unbalance your life (even to friends, family and other loved ones). 4. Take great care of yourself by doing things you love.
What are some of your personal and emotional needs? How do you get them met?
What are some of your personal and emotional needs? How do you get them met?
