Relationships used to work because one partner relied on the other for financial and physical support, while the other provided emotional and custodial support. Times have changed significantly! For all relationships, both partners need to cultivate a balance of both masculine and feminine energies... creating a true, equal partnership.
We always seek out a complimentary mate. If we carry the masculine energy (typically males, but 20% of females) we desire to partner with someone carrying the feminine energy (typically females, but also 20% of males). This is so we can balance our strengths and weaknesses. Typically, where you are strong, your partner will be weaker and vice versa. In the beginning this seems to work just fine. However, at some point these differences cause resentment and frustration. We just don’t understand your point of view and we resent you needing us so much (partner X) and you not needing us enough (partner Y)!
When we reach the point in our relationships where we want our partner to change because things are just not working, it's time to dig deep and make changes within yourself. These changes will greatly influence your partner to make changes of their own. If you carry the feminine energy in your relationship it may be time for you to get in touch with some of your more masculine traits and if you carry the masculine energy it may be time to harness some of your feminine traits. Chances are pretty good that you are already fairly balanced and things could simply use some tweaking.
Instead of leaning on your partner to take care of those things that you aren't so good at, commit to cultivating this skillset within yourself. Masculine energy includes qualities such as doing, analysis, impatience, striving, rushing, assertiveness, logical, busy and controlling; while feminine energy includes being, intuition, patience, tranquil, nurturing, receptive, creative, calm and allowing. Balancing these traits still leaves plenty of room for women to be women and men to be men. You simply create a greater number of strengths within each partner. For example, some of you may call this irresponsible, but knowing how to relax and not take life so seriously, is... believe it or not, a strength! And, being too responsible is a weakness as far as relationships are concerned.
Does any of this apply to your own relationship? If so, it's the balance of two whole, competent individuals that really creates magic and passion that can be sustained.
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